How to stop worrying and start living
Life, in its truest form, is a very short endeavor. We can never really predict what is going to happen in a few years or, to be more precise, we don’t know what will happen in the next few minutes. It is natural to feel a little nervous at the very thought that something bad might happen but having an unreasonable fear over that matter on a constant basis only makes things worse, not only for us but also for our close-by persons.
Worrying is basically the thoughts, images and emotions of a negative nature. We try to make attempts to avoid those potential but mostly imaginary threats. Worrying can be categorized as ‘good worry’ and ‘toxic worry’. Good worry acts as a boost the constructive action among us for an issue for which the concern is needed. Toxic worry can be harmful because it can literary paralyze the victim.
The main cause for worrying is the perspective that ‘something bad is going to happen and if I worry about it, I might prevent it from happening or be ready when it actually happens.’ In other words, some chronic worriers are in the opinion that it is their responsibility to worry when they feel something unexpected is going to happen.
Worrying does you no good. In fact, it not only depletes one’s mental fitness, worrying also affects their physical and social well-being. Worriers have a tendency to be victims of irritable bowel syndrome, nausea, fatigue, and aches and pains. They experience generalized anxiety disorder and reports state that 93% of these worriers also suffer from other psychiatric disorders such as depression and sleeping problems.
Worrying, when it’s practiced on a regular basis, is very hard to get rid of. Some people know that constant worrying is not healthy and ponders on worrying too much. This only adds up to the problem. It’s hard to stop worrying when one believes worrying can be a shield of protection. The realization of worrying being the problem, not the solution is the key for getting rid of worrying.
A person having a psychological issue is not an embarrassment. Although the society might think otherwise, getting professional help for that particular issue is thoroughly recommended. Meanwhile, one could also self-help which will be more effective because of the effort that is put in to it. Allocating a time period a day to worry and gradually decreasing it is a guaranteed approach for the beginners. The problem that causes the worrying could be analysed rationally, which might prove the concern was not worth of in the first place. It is no secret that, since humans are social beings, we all prefer to interact more with others. So, the time we spend with our peers and family could be increased which would act as a distraction, if not the solution for the problem. Maintaining a diary is also a great way to reduce stress and worrying because it is scientifically proven that writing down the negative emotions can indicate the psychological patterns. That would be helpful in professional treatments. Meditation and mindfulness allow to stay focused on the present, and to acknowledge the thoughts and feelings. This will reduce the habit of wandering of the mind and there-by reduce the reasons to worry.
There is a popular saying, ‘Stop existing and start living’. In order to do that and lead a blissful life, we have to let go of what makes us worried. Enjoying to the heart’s content when enjoying, living in the moment, doing things we are passionate about, being with the people we love, forgiving and forgetting easily are littlest of tips that are mostly overlooked by many, but hold the true pleasures of life. We only have one life to live, and it’s too short to waste worrying.
Article by Shanika Upamali
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